“You will never heal.” “You’re different/more f’ed up than everyone else.” “No one here likes you.” “You’re not smart enough.” “You didn’t do it perfect.”
Any of these sound familiar?
This is the voice of your Inner Critic (IC).
I used to believe this voice lock, stock and barrel. I truly bought everything my IC was selling: “you can’t do this, you’re unsafe, you’re ugly . . . “
We’ll talk more next week about how to relate to and work with this notorious IC.
For now, I want to tell you a bit about the why of the IC.
Why the heck do you have a very loud and, often plain cruel, Inner Critic?
The Inner Critic is a combination of the voices of your earliest caregivers.
Eventually (around age 6 on) you adopted these voices as your truth and began to speak this way to yourself as a way to keep yourself safe and to try get love.
Knowing this can be a gateway to disidentifying with the IC as the true you.
There is so much love, so much wisdom and creativity inside of you sweetie-pie. I promise. The first step here is even considering that this IC voice isn’t YOU. It’s not. I know this. Trust me, I’ve been through it and still work with it to remember my goodness, my true value and ALL the HOPE.
Takeaway for today:
Practice identifying the voice of the inner critic: